"Why A Man Gets 'Scared Away' When You Try To Get Him To Commit For The Long-Term- And What To Do About It”
I would like to ask you a few questions. Be open and honest with yourself as you answer them... Have you ever met a guy who seemed to be "Mr. Right", but after getting to know him better you could tell that he just did not think that same level of "connection" you felt? You were attracted to him, but he just was not into you the same way you were into him? In your mind, you could sense what a great guy he was, and that, somewhere deep inside; you both shared this strong "chemistry" that made you feel close and comfortable. But for some reason he did not want to connect truly with you. Another one... Have you ever slept with a guy very quickly after meeting him, but as it started to happen you got that sinking feeling in your stomach? You knew it was a mistake, but you did it anyway. And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: He unexplainable disappeared from your life. Honestly, have you ever had this happen? Of coarse, the worst part was not that it happened, but that you KNEW you should not have done it in the first place... but you did it anyway. And finally: Have you ever dated a great guy for a long time... I am talking about six months, 12 months, or even longer... and it was getting to the point where you needed to have "the talk" with him. But when you tried to bring up the topic of having a relationship and making a bigger commitment, his eyes just glazed over... and then he became distant from you... and the relationship ended soon after? You were trying to get CLOSER to him, and somehow he kept moving further AWAY from you. I am guessing that when one of these things happened, your girlfriends said things like: "He's just a jerk, forget about him". Or they said: "He doesn't see the mistake he is making or what he will be missing". But he never seemed to see these mistakes... or even miss you. And the worst part of all: You kept thinking about it. In fact, it really GOT TO YOU. And I will bet the REASON why it got to you is because you worried that it might have been something to do with YOU (and not just because he was a total jerk). In fact, TO THIS DAY you still have the thinking that YOU may have done something wrong, and that you may have CAUSED some of the problems in the first place... and if you would have known the RIGHT thing to do, things would have turned out differently... Unfortunately, the bad news is that you are probably right. Chances are you DID have something to do with it, and things probably WOULD have turned out differently if you would have known how you are the situation. You COULD have done something about it... if only you had known WHAT to do...
